Moving Day

Happy Saturday! Girlfriends Inspire Blog is moving, this site will be deactivated within the next few days. Hoping all my readers will join me as I launch Girlfriends Inspire Devotional a Collection of Writings by Elle Vita :) the new site will be www.msjevitamonique.wordpress.com. The site is still under construction and I am in the process of transferring. Please be patient with me as I am building and growing. This is just the beginning of a vision that is so great...💋

Thanks so much! 

Vita

I Often Wonder.......

I Often Wonder…..

I decided to participate in a blog “Link up”.  since I started this blog it has been my desire to expand my knowledge and get to know other writers. It is amazing the amount of support the community has for each other. The Link up is featured on a fellow writers page, her website is www.findingthegracewithin.com.

How awesome is she to allow other writers to be featured on her website? It is important for me to surround myself with people who are positive, and since I decided to pursue my writing career; God has just made it possible to be in the right place at the right time. I am no pro, I am a TOTAL amateur. Even though I jumped in this blind, God has been my light and he is guiding me through this. 

Every Tuesday at Ten she gives us a prompt and 6 days to link to the post! The prompt we had was “I wonder...” this prompt took my mind to many places. I am always wondering, hoping, dreaming and even regretting (which I am working on).

I often wonder……

I often wonder about my strength as a person, as a woman, and a mother. I wonder why I decided to lose strength at some point in my life and did not fight harder for myself. 

Why did I allow myself to stop dreaming, and made too many unnecessary bad choices. So many people with unfortunate setbacks in life still decided to pursue a better situation.

Why did I feel like I could not have the same? Why did I allow myself to fall victim so badly?  

Why did I deal with men that used and abused me, when I could have had a better life with someone who cared?

Why did I allow so called friends to discredit me and make me feel worst, when they were no better off? I wonder why I chose the hard way, verses easy.

Why could I not draw strength even for my children? All mothers do that right? 

So many questions, so many regrets, and life is better for me now.

While I have learned that God will take all the pain, mistakes and turn them around for my good-----for HIS glory. I still often wonder these things. I know that he will make it all come together and finish the good work he started in me (according to HIS word). I believe what he says he will do if I focus and live my life for him. No doubt!

But……

I still often wonder why I put myself through hell before FINALLY he said enough and really caught my attention. I grew tired. I was so tired and broken that God was my only choice. I often wonder why I did not allow myself to make him my first choice, he sacrificed his son for me.

The thing is I have not let go of a lot, and forgiving myself is an everyday journey. I hear people say all the time that they are so thankful for all they have been through, and that includes the good, and the bad. I cannot have those same thoughts right now. I just wish everything would have been “better”. It is one thing to have other people give up on you, but when you give up on yourself and feel worthless it is hard to understand. I have some amazing children, and I feel like I just should have been more for them. I should have been a better provider, a lot of things that we went through was unnecessary to me.

I often wonder will these thoughts go away. I have learned my true Identity in Christ. I believe it too. 

Every single day, I am renewed with a new opportunity to get up and see my children. I realized even though I made some pretty bad choices, I have privileged to do better each day. I have learned that my past does not define me. 

God gave me a vision of everything I can have, and that vision keeps me going in life. I am thankful that I am walking a purposed filled life. I have learned the power of remaining positive, and redirecting my thoughts from negativity. I have learned that I can always begin again. I have learned that tomorrow is not promised and I have to be grateful every single day.

With all that I have lost, I feel if I keep going on this path all will be restored. I have seen the evidence in the life of people who were so broken. God’s power is amazing, it hurts me when I see people who do not believe in his power. I know what has happened in my life, and how I could have not possibly pulled myself out of it. I did not have the mental capacity to want better, to do better for myself. Jesus saved my life. I was dying and no one knew it.

Even though I often wonder all of the above, I am learning too. Every day I am seeing evidence of how much strength I have. I am thankful, that I have been redeemed.

Have a Wonderful Evening!

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Redefine Your Identity: The TRUTH about you.....

  

 

I posted a Facebook status the other day, and it was talking about how we should be nicer to ourselves. That post resonated with a lot of people because we do join in when the world beats us up! We repent and still feel so badly, which means we haven't forgiven ourselves. 

I mentioned that we need to act like a child of Royalty, our father is KING! Hold your head up high and live! The reason people cannot do that is because they have not studied and meditated on the truth. The word of God defines exactly who you are; this is your only truth. God's truth was the turning point in my life. I pray that each and every one of my readers that come across this will allow the word of God to dictate how they live and feel about life.

 I have giving you the pleasure of providing the scripture reference. I make these personal to me so that I can begin to meditate and remember them in my heart.

·         Vita, the forgiven child…

Yet God freely and graciously declares that we are righteous. He did this through Christ Jesus when he freed us from the penalty for our sins. (Romans 3:23-24 NLT)

 

·         Vita, the set free child…

So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus. And because you belong to him, the power of the life-giving Spirit has freed you from the power of sin that leads to death. (Romans 8:1-2 NLT)

 

·         Vita, the accepted child of God…

 I am writing to God’s church in Corinth, to you who have been called by God to be his own holy people. He made you holy by means of Christ Jesus, just as he did for all people everywhere who call on the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, their Lord and ours. (1 Corinthians 1:2 NLT)

 

·         Vita, the holy child of God…

 God has united you with Christ Jesus. For our benefit God made him to be wisdom itself. Christ made us right with God; he made us pure and holy, and he freed us from sin. (1 Corinthians 1:30 NLT)

 

·         Vita, the made-new child of God…

 This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun! (2 Corinthians 5:17 NLT)

 

·         Vita, the loved child of God…

 Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes. (Ephesians 1:4 NLT)

 

·         Vita, the close child of God…

 But now you have been united with Christ Jesus. Once you were far away from God, but now you have been brought near to him through the blood of Christ. (Ephesians 2:13 NLT)

 

·         Vita, the confident child of God…

 Because of Christ and our faith in him, we can now come boldly and confidently into God’s presence. (Ephesians 3:12 NLT)

 

·         Vita, the victorious child of God…

 No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us. (Romans 8:37 NLT)

I pray that the person who is reading let it resonate in your heart; it works when life gets hard for you. The truth always sets me free again! Do not believe the negativity that the devil has come to feed you. The truth is easier, as always. Blessings! You are a child of the King! Walk like Royalty.

 

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My Life Changing Relationship

 

 

 

"The more we let God take us over, the more truly ourselves we become because he made us. He invented all the different people that you and I were intended to be…. It is when I turn to Christ when I give up myself to His personality, that I first begin to have a real personality of my own." ~C.S. Lewis

 It has been entirely too long since I have written a post on this blog. Had to take a halt due to, So many life changing adjustments and accomplishments. This writing situation is still new to me, as I begin to live boldly and chase a dream that I had hidden. This month I finally finished College, which is such an amazing accomplishment for me! When I started this blog, I had no idea how many people would grow to love it so fast. I am so thankful for all my readers; my mom told me the other day that I need to hurry up and post because I cannot leave everyone hanging on waiting! She is so right. During these past months, I also began to work on my relationship with God. Growing closer to God, I learned some valuable lesson, and I feel so free and peaceful. I also learned that the enemy will move strategically to stop me, I have to make sure that I have my full armor on like the book of Ephesians teaches us to. The relationship that I have with God now has totally changed my life. I have known God all my life, but I did not have a relationship with him. I have always known what I called the basics; the Ten Commandments, he died for my sin, he loves me…all of those things. I was not living it, and even when I tried to live it I did not focus on him. The only focus I had was on the problems and issues that were in my life at that time.

EVERYTHING I know about him he is teaching me in the exact way I need to learn.  This relationship actually keeps me happy, and sane when the entire world is jumping on my nerve. I and My God are connected and that is what a relationship is; when two or more people are connected! It is not religion and chants. We sit and we enjoy the company of each other. I know he will never require me to be anything that I am not, and nothing I do in this world can make him stop ever loving me.

 

I have a Confession; now that I am able to have this renewed relationship with the father, I am able to have successful relationships with other people. I am a person that can enjoy healthy relationships, but I am also a person that people actually want to be around. Sadly, misery loves company and in a previous season of my life I truly was a miserable woman. I know some people may shake their heads at that, but it is my truth. I had some connections, but most of them were formed out of codependency.  Codependent relationships are when you attach yourself to another human being and it becomes a very unhealthy existence for all parties involved. I just had to have someone around because the thought of loneliness was too much for me to deal with. (I will come back on the LOVELY part of being alone later) I would take just any type of treatment so that the other person would not leave. I allowed myself to be abused verbally and physically, yep! I allowed people to use me, and to make me feel less than I was. Satan had a great time making me think I was worthless. I think back at this now and I still get sad that I allowed such people in my life and that I allowed this to manifest into truth. I grew tired of those types of relationships, the final straw was losing everything due to an emotional breakdown. I grew tired of people using me up and walking away. I guess now I can thank them because it allowed me to run into my father’s arms. Now I will never leave, the love is too good.

OH!! That feeling of being "lonely" that scared me so bad? That was necessary so that he can work on me, and that I could hear him without distraction. The more I grew closer to him those lonely days seem filled. I will not say there aren't times when I still would like companionship. It is a priority that I have the "right" companionship.

Many people believe before they come to God they have to be a certain way, they must pray or dress a particular way. Lies. They feel like the Bible is boring and prayer does not work.  I can truly understand that feeling. I say….who says you have to learn the Bible a particular type of way? My studies came from devotionals, and reading spiritual books and just listening. The more I read and let it manifest, the more I desired it. That will happen for anyone, I can guarantee it! As far as prayer is concerned, who says a simple prayer is not enough? I literally pray throughout the day. The more you pray about connecting with Gods vision, the other stuff will come naturally. It is many reasons WHY people feel they cannot develop a relationship with God. Then some people just have not had enough of their sinful nature; that was me. I didn't have enough. However, I knew the life I was living was not how I was supposed to live. So I just told God the truth. My prayer was something like this:

"God, I see how other people in the church seem to be excited and in love with everything about you. I know what the word says, but I do not feel that way about you. I am truly ashamed, but I know you can help me. Help me to not be fearful of loving you, and living for you. I have certain things in my life as you know that I do not want to let go. These things bring me comfort, I enjoy them because truthfully nothing else in life is going right. Help me to know your love, help me to find peace in joy and get excited. Help me to know you so I can trust you. I do not know how long my journey will be, but I trust you indefinitely with helping me."

 

Seriously, that was like a ton of bricks lifted off my shoulder and immediately my life changed. It was not that I stopped doing certain things or fell totally in love with Christ overnight. I begin to crave him, he also began to show me how wonderful he has always been. It was like my eyes were open. This is a relationship that will save your life. The things I found comfort in, no longer were comfortable. My entire surrounding began to change, I began to lose everything that was a comfort zone that served him no purpose. Glory!

I am excited. When I feel lousy, I am still excited because I know that emotions are not ruling me, I feel it then it is gone. God is going to take care of every aspect of my life. He does not even need my help one bit. I surrender!!

 

Much Love, Xoxo

Elle Vita

 

 

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